Support BLM? They Said They Don’t Want Me


There is a rift in our nation today, and if you watch the news or spend any time on social media, it can seem like this rift is getting wider by the day. In the last several days, I have had several friends basically demand that people support Black Lives Matter and the destructive protests, or they would cut ties. Other friends have provided similar calls to action. Unfortunately, many have bought into it. But there’s a problem with that.

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Would you be okay with a friend beating their spouse over a lost sporting event? Then why are you okay with people destroying communities when governments overreach?

Originally, I wasn’t going to say anything about any of it. However, another friend posted something that has prompted this response. He said:  

“Look, I get it. Some of you are still against “Black Lives Matter” as a saying. I once thought the same thing…why not “All Lives?” or even “What about everyone else?”. The thing is, nobody said, “All others don’t matter.” Nobody is even remotely saying “All others shouldn’t matter.” All they are saying is at this moment, “Black Lives Matter also.” They are trying to even the playing field so All lives can matter equally. So, you are not saying nobody else matters when you say Black Lives Matter; you are saying their lives matter just as much as your own. Let’s get on board and prove that all lives truly do matter because until all races actually matter, then All Lives Matter is just a useless empty saying. It’s really kind of simple.”

I think I understand the point, and I actually appreciate the perspective. But I have been made to believe that I am neither welcome nor needed in that movement. Maybe I’m missing something or looking at it wrong (which I am open to clarity), but when BLM organizers continue to say things like “white people to the back,” or “black only space,” or “if you are not black, please don’t come,” or “white people are killing us – We don’t even really need white people to show up to rallies. We need our reparations” – it seems pretty clear.

I just can’t bring myself to support an organization or movement that repeatedly tells me that I’m not welcome and that I’m the enemy – keeping in mind that these are merely a few of the many examples that I could provide. Furthermore, I can’t help but notice that when I see BLM, Antifa is usually somewhere in the wings. I definitely don’t want ANYTHING to do with Antifa.

Antifa and Black Lives Matter – Photo Credit: New York Times – Article “What is Antifa”

And to be very direct, at the end of the day, I don’t want to be a part of something that alienates someone over something they had zero control over. I thought we had done away with all that when we got rid of the Democrat’s Jim Crow Laws! Look, that kind of behavior wasn’t okay in the ’50s and ’60s, and it’s not okay now. Too many good people have fought and died in the attempt to bring people together to just let some murderous clown with a badge or destructive movement rip us apart.

Clearly, this divide is not just about “out of control law enforcement” because studies have shown that “NON-WHITE officers kill both black and Latino suspects at significantly higher rates than white officers.” So this is selective outrage pointed at color, and I don’t support the racism. If we could point the outrage at law enforcement in general, welcome each other with open arms, provide some consistency regarding the deaths of the innocent, and stop with the destruction of private property, I’m in.

If we are going to work “together,” then we should approach it as though we are “together.”  This means that we come together under a common banner that doesn’t alienate based on the uncontrollable. We would be stronger if we did. For me… I don’t have a racial problem. I have a militant law enforcement problem and a Big Government problem. Heck, even some police officers have seen how bad it has become and have started to become vocal about it.

We are all subject to the growing tyranny, and dividing ourselves isn’t going to help our cause. We are weaker for doing so. For example, I’m very angry about what happened to George Floyd. Rightfully so! However, I am equally angry about what happened to Daniel Shaver and Tony Timpa. I’m equally angry about civil asset forfeitures, violation of Constitutional right, (etc., etc., etc.). Unfortunately, I seem to be the minority in this, but these things are not only similar, I see them as linked under a common issue. We should ALL act accordingly.

My friend is definitely right about empty words, though. Too many people have them. For me, it’s all about doing the right thing. So, rather than support a movement often associated with violence and destruction of property, I would rather help build and foster progress in the community.

As a recent example, I’ve already pitched in money for KB Balla and probably will again after my next payday. Why? He didn’t deserve what happened to him, and evidently, his life didn’t matter to the activists that tried to rip his life apart for selfish gain. Well, his life matters to me, and my heart broke as I watched him weep over what the activists did to him. Why would I support those associated with what happened? Why would I want to be associated with acts of violence against innocent people? Why would I want to be a part of all that when even George Floyd’s younger brother, Terrence, has been asking for peace instead of violent protests.

Protesters in Rochester, New York viciously attack an elderly woman and her husband with violent punches, chairs, and a board. Do these folks matter to anyone? Do you want to be associated with this type of behavior? I don’t.

Either way, I don’t need a destructive movement to motivate me to help; I don’t need a destructive movement to tell me that all lives matter, and I sure don’t need a destructive movement to tell me that law enforcement (and government) is out of control. All I needed for any of this was an understanding of the Constitution, an open heart, and genuine care for my fellow man.

David Dorn’s life evidently mattered far less than the televisions the looters killed him for. I cannot and will not support a movement capable of such hypocrisy.

And shouldn’t it be a clue for everyone that Brian Powell, the son of the man who was killed in the video above (David Dorn), has said, “The person who pulled the trigger, my message to them would just simply be, just step back from what you’re doing. Know the real reason that you are protesting. Let’s do it in a positive manner.” He continued by saying, “We don’t have to go out and loot and do all the other things.” I think he’s absolutely right!

Besides, there are still a LOT of unanswered questions and plenty of questionable things going on to just jump on board the chaos train. I can’t help but feel as though something rather sinister is at play. Between the out of town protesters, mysterious pallets of bricks being found, the random (white) protesters who keep breaking windows, setting fires, and spray-painting hate on walls, etc. Too many were too quick to just jump right in and too few have stopped to question whether or not they (or we) were being manipulated.

White girls spraying BLM on buildings, a white guy smashing the windows at Autozone to start the riots, and random pallets of bricks showing up at flash-points across the country.

Regardless, I’m getting off point. I know I’m far from perfect. I have made many mistakes in my life. However, I am trying hard to be the change that I want to see in the world. And for that, I do not want to support something that perpetuates division and chaos. I just can’t do it. In fact, the only divisions that I think I could get behind would be against those who reject or attempt to infringe upon my Constitutional Rights, those who place divisions on themselves (racists, etc.), and perhaps those seeking communist or socialist utopias – which probably goes back to the Constitution part.

It’s like this: if someone has a beef with me because of something I had ZERO control over, that’s fine… that’s their right… but don’t expect my support. For me, it is simple, and I hold EVERYONE to the same standard. If you want to be my friend, I’ll be your friend. If you tell me I’m not welcome, I’ll walk away. If you tell me that I’m your enemy… you get my apathy. If you attack and destroy, you’ve opened up a door that one of us might not step back through.

I get it. You might hate me because of how I look or because of my gender. You might even hate me because of what I’m saying here. It’s unfortunate too, because we could probably be great friends if you could just see past the surface and feel my meaning. I would stand by your side in a fight against tyranny but that fight doesn’t start against the average people in our communities. Regardless, I can promise you that I am not the evil in your life. I’m just a guy doing the best that I can to make some kind of positive change while I’m still here.

We are all not so different. We all want to be free, we all want great things for our families, and we all want to be happy. Please… I beg you… stop the divisions among ourselves. Be the difference you want to see in the world. And if you understand and agree with what I’m saying, please stop placing race or gender (things that none of us had ANY control over) at the top of your lists.

We can do better. MUCH better. And, we can do it together. Now, the good news is that there are voices out there saying similar things. There are people out there now starting to question. It’s just too bad that the media doesn’t share them. But then again, they are trying very hard to keep us divided, so why would they?

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